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Most men think there's a magic word they can say to get a woman to talk to them. While there is no such "magic word," there are three keys to communicating with a woman that work every single time.

This is not earth-shattering stuff. What I'm about to suggest to you is a simple approach that has worked every single time I or one of my students have used it.

Here are the three simple steps to communicating with a woman:

Step 1: Observe What She Is Doing. Take the example of a woman standing behind you in line at the supermarket unloading her groceries. What is she putting on the conveyor belt? If she's behind you in line at Starbucks, what is she ordering? What is she eating?

Notice everything she's doing. Let the environment give you something to say. Most guys think of something to say that's so random it makes absolutely no sense in a woman's mind. Women actually make fun of these guys and say, "You won't believe what he actually came over and said to me."

Step 2: Act on the Observation. In order to properly act upon the observation, you need to open her up and evoke a feeling. For instance, if a woman is ordering a double espresso, the thing to talk about is usually the first thing that comes to your mind.

A typical guy might say, "Do you like coffee?" which leads to a yes or no answer. A man who is 100 percent present will look at her and say, "Rough night last night?" or "Busy day ahead?" What you're trying to do is stay inside her head and remain in her current thought process.

It's much easier to have a conversation based upon things she's already experiencing. A woman will share something that's already going on in her head.
Another example: you're standing at a bar and see a woman ferociously texting someone while standing there by herself. You can walk over and make an assumption like "Is your friend late?" This will in turn open up a conversation based upon feelings and emotions.

Women are emotional creatures. They want to bond with you emotionally. They don't want to bond with you randomly. This leads us to Step 3.

Step 3: Listen to What She Has to Say. In order to have good conversation and bond with a woman, you need to listen to what she says. If you listen to her, you will know what to say next. It's called a conversation for a reason.

A lot of men always think about what to say next, or they have a script in their head about what to say next. That's not a conversation -- that's a bad screenplay.

For example, I was standing with a couple of clients on a corner in Williamsburg, Brooklyn. There was a woman standing there by herself with a suitcase, obviously waiting for someone to pick her up for a weekend getaway. So what did these two guys do? They observed and they asked her:

Guys: "So where are you going?"
Girl: "New Jersey."

Immediately one of them says, "New Jersey? I'm from Tampa."

That's not a conversation. That is a guy changing the subject to talk about himself. He doesn't care about her right off the bat. The correct thing to say in this situation is this:

Guy: "Where in Jersey are you going?"
Girl: "The shore for the weekend."

Now, in turn, the two guys can keep her present in her head about the weekend and ask her about her trip.

Guys: "Which beach?" or "Wow, how long are you staying there?"

If they listen and stop thinking about how to amuse her by telling her they're from Tampa, they'll actually connect with her and have a conversation about the shore, vacations -- and who knows where the conversation might go.

Men complicate things for no reason. There are no magic lines that you can say, but in reality if men just talked to women like they talk to their closest friends, they would have amazing conversations. Men just need to relax and listen to what women are saying.

Do this and you're going to have great conversations. It's that simple! Get out of the house, observe, react and listen!

The theory of the moon effecting people is based on the belief that since full moons affect ocean tides, they also affect human behavior. But there is actually no prooof that this theory is true. Studies comparing full moon with rates of suicide, homicides, etc. have come up with nothing. In older days, a full moon might have made it easier to see to comit a crime, but thats it. So, conclusion.... just a myth.

This takes dessert to a whole new level. Take an Oreo and deep fry it in cake batter until the sticky center melts into a sweet goo. Awesome!

Eat something cold and what happens? Brain Freeze!

Noone really knows why but scientists think Brain Freeze occurs when the temperature of your palate doesn't have enough time to normalize between spoonfools of cold. The capillaries in the roof of the mouth dilate rapidly, filling with warmth inducing blood, and that sudden expansion could trigger nerves at the back of your palate to fire off urgent messages to your brain. In response, blood vessels in your forehead swell in a pattern that resembles a migrane.

To cure a Brain freeze, press your tongue hard against the palate to thaw it quickly, or breathe into your hands to heat your mouth.

The notion that chewing gum increased alertness dates back to World War 1 when sticks were slipped into soldiers rations. The idea was that chewing gum increases blood flow to the brain and tricks the brain into expecting a meal. This then triggers an increase in insulin production that could boost cerebral glucose levels, thus increase awareness and smart. Unfortunately, a 2004 study found gum chewers to be less attentive. Oh well, so much for using that excuse in class.

Your dietary cravings can reveal how you approach problems or new situations, what stresses you, and how you relieve stress, according to a two-year study of the relationship between diet, stress and personality type. Glenn Livingston, Ph.D., psychologist and CEO of marketing research firm Executive Solutions Inc conducted the study, involving 1,500 people.

The study reports, among other intriguing conclusions, that people tend to fall into one of five groups, distinguished by the foods they crave.

The groups are: Chocomaniacs, French Fries, Food for Fun, Carbo Cravers and Food Finessers. Both genetics and psychology affect the types of cravings we have and our ability to control them, and give us clues to our personalities. For example, Chocomaniacs say they value compassion more than objectivity, and their emotional lives are very important to them. Practicing smiling helps them reduce stress.

French Fries are more objective than compassionate and tend to eat when angry or under time pressure. Don’t ask them to smile; they’d rather decompress by curling up with a good book.

Foods for Fun types speak their minds freely and eat when stressed or bored; they need help prioritizing and reducing interruptions.

Carbo Cravers tend to be uncomfortable in unfamiliar social situations and prefer not to travel’ they are likely to own cats.

And finally, Food Finessers, who generally are content to take just a few bites of a variety of things without bingeing, prefer working alone and rely more on logic than emotion, but they combine this with intuition and inductive logic.

Do you know the stories behind how some pop stars came up with their stage names? Here are just a few:

Freddy Fender, Born Baldeman Huerta. Now that name would have sold a lot of records. here is the story. In the late 50's, the Mexican-American country singer adopted the name of a guitar he played, A Fender Guiter. His goal was to help his music sell better with gringos.

Thomas Dolby, Born Thomas Morgan. The story: the synth-popper's avid interest in electronics earned him the nickname in school of "Dolby" after the company that created audiotape noise reduction technology.

Bono Vox (Thats right, Bono fron U2), Born Paul David Hewson. The story is he got his name from a hearing aid stor in Dublin named Bonovox. Latin for good voice. fortunately he dropped the "Vox: